Distance

"A part of you has grown on me.

Together forever we shall be.Never apart.

Maybe in distance but not in the heart."

-Anonymous

Over the years I have been lucky to have amazing friends-in school, in college, on the World Wide Web and I've found friends in the most unimaginable of places.

Didn't know a girl existed in school for 11 and a half years and now she's the first person I turn to for anything.

Hardly talked to one until school got over and now I cant imagine life without her.We meet only twice a year but we start exactly where we left off.

Someone commented on my blog-the first comment on my first blog post and now that someone is my friend, philosopher and guide and sent me one of my most precious possessions. I've never met her by the way.But it doesn't seem that way at all.

You think a person is your best friend but you won"t realize when distance creeps in between you two.Distance doesn't knock on the door and enter, it just comes. As you try and distance yourself from someone, you might just draw closer to him. Distance cannot be created. Sometimes you think there's distance between two people but they might be best friends.Distance can be deceptive.

They say away from sight, away from heart.I say distance doesn't really matter unless you let it. You might be miles away from someone and yet it doesn't feel that way and you might live under the same roof with someone where the distance can never be covered.So if you feel distance is what is keeping you away from what you want or who you want in your life, think again because distance doesn't know how far it is or how long it is unless we give it that power.

PS: This one's for you Eshi, Pri and Sim..I Love you guys and always know,no matter the distance between us, you'll be in my heart forever.

Experiencing Life As It Is

Folklore in the form of stories, poems and songs have come down to us through words that are spoken and heard and because of that a lot of things in stories, myths, tales are altered to suit the changing times as per people’s sensibilities in that generation or to make it more acceptable to society or to make it suitable for children like done in Tales of Beedle the Bard in the Harry Potter series, not realizing that children are the ones who should be told the truth as they are the future and also because at first we hide the truth about life’s realities and hardships but when they grow up we expect them to understand all these truths and be mature when at first we were the ones hiding it from them, trying to protect them when ultimately they have to face them anyway.

Though today’s generation might learn things the hard way we too have a right to experience every single thing life has to offer and learn-through good or bad lessons. Elders try to protect us from all this saying they don’t want us to make the same mistakes they made but who really learns that way?! Who wants to learn that way?!(Though I agree sometimes we ought to!)

Whatever the way may be- we learn from others or our own mistakes-the point is to get up even if we fail by putting in use our own opinions, by taking our own decisions. Just as US President Mr. Barack Obama said in his Inaugural Address “Starting today, we must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and begin again…”

Why Girls Are Worth Everything And More!

Girls always smell good even if it’s just shampoo. The way they sleep on your shoulders. The ease with which they fit into your arms. Somehow they’re always warm even when it’s cold outside. The way they say I miss you.

The way they fall into your arms when they are sad. The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn’t hurt them. Once they come into your life, whatever they are to the world, they become everything to you.

A girl smiles when she feels like screaming. She sings when she feels like crying. Cries when she’s happy and laughs when she’s afraid. Her love is unconditional.

A woman will love you tomorrow like she loves you today; she can keep your heart guessing but she’s yours if she stays. When you look into her eyes, you can see forever.

The willingness to listen, the patience to understand, the strength to support, the heart to care and just be there..that’s the beauty of a lady.

There is only one thing wrong with her that she sometimes forgets what she’s worth.

Love and respect all women in your life and love yourself too girl because you’re worth it!

P.S. Compiled from various sources…not totally original!

What Could Have Been

What could have been, but wasn’t

What might have been, but isn’t

What I have is deserved by me,

What isn’t, wasn’t meant to be.

We come across so many people everyday-people we know, love and interact with; people we only recognize by face-the liftman, the security guard, colleagues in our college or workplace; and people we don’t know-the passerby’s on the road, in cars, in cafes, malls and multiplexes.

What we expect from people is sometimes met and sometimes not. We wish he/she wasn’t just a friend. How nice it’d be if I meant something more to her/him. We wish we didn’t have that fight a year ago and were still friends today. It would have been fun to still hear her witty suggestions for all life’s problems-big or small. We wish we had we had gotten to know someone better-a friend that could have been. We wonder how it would have been if we hadn’t hesitated to give our phone number where we could have, maybe should have.

Sometimes we wish we had bunked that class and gone for the film and gotten free popcorn as part of the promotional offer. If we had sneaked out of house and gone for the party maybe we would have met the guy we had been hearing about for months. Maybe going for that seminar would have informed me about the course which I wanted to pursue or maybe it was just boring. There are so many things we could have done instead of what we did. The things which could have been something but are something else. The relationship that could have been but isn’t. But it’s okay right? What we have now is a result of our past decisions and what we decide now will determine what happens next.

The choice is always ours but still sometimes when a cool breeze blows and the sun sets, our heart goes out in search of things which might have been not always with regret, maybe just a slight wistful longing. What we have now is the best for us yes, but who would know what could have been…?

QOTB: What are the things you wish “could have been”??!

You Be The Judge

It was a normal day as I accompanied a friend to the CA Institute-she had some work there and since I didn’t have any I went with her. As I entered, it struck me that the people out there must be thinking I’m a CA student too. Without even consciously realizing they must have taken it for granted that if she’s here she must be doing CA. This got me thinking. So often we judge things and people without giving it a second thought.

If someone’s rich and pretty, they must have attitude.

If someone’s with a member of the opposite sex, “Hmm, are they seeing each other?”

If she’s nice to her, she is a nice person overall.

He wears glasses and has oily hair; he must be the studious geeky type.

That senior ragged me, she’s a horrible person.

She failed in this subject, she’s dumb.

I could go on and on with the examples. We all are judgmental people. We can’t just see things as they are without forming an opinion. Does outer beauty mean lack of inner beauty? Why can’t there be a platonic relationship between a boy and a girl? Just because someone’s nice to one person doesn’t make her a good human being. A person can be shy and hence not speak and how does being simple in outlook mean being a geek? Ragging is a part of college life and a little bit helps in forming good relations with the seniors as well-that doesn’t necessarily make the senior a bad person. If a person fails in one subject, that doesn’t mean she’s dumb, maybe she has an aptitude for something else.

But no, we have to form an opinion.

More than ourselves, we think about others. Half of our time goes in wondering about other people and what they think of us. It’s so important to know every bit of gossip about everyone that sometimes we don’t know what our heart is saying. We bother too much about too many people and about too many things.

Don’t. Don’t judge other people, give everything and everyone a fair chance.

Don’t bother about what everyone’s saying or doing, follow your heart.

Spend so much time improving yourself, that there is no time left to criticize others.

You be The Judge. Not of others but of your own life.

Winter Air

There is something special about the winds blowing in winter. Something Romantic, relaxing, very ethereal. It somehow beautifies everything as I felt while crossing a bridge yesterday. A slight fog hung in the air making the view hazy and everything even more otherworldly. It didn’t seem like the view from the same bridge which I cross so frequently. Yes, the pollution was there. Yes, the slums nearby. But the river running by with the line of trees in the distant. The faint outline of a mosque. People selling hot corn on the roadside. As if everything and everyone had slowed down, enjoying the winter air, even the cars passing by had sort of a slackened pace. Everyone seemed to be absorbing the tranquil peace of the chilly evening. As the wind blew against my face, ruffling up my hair and I raised my hand to settle it back, I could almost touch the Winter Air. Almost. If only I had reached out and touched it, I could probably have broken a piece and kept it with me as a source of comfort in those trying times. It was almost tangible and I knew then that every single one of my dreams had the power to come true if only I’d reach out and have the courage to touch them. A man riding a cycle with his wife sitting coyly with him completed the picture…

Answer to last week's QOTB:Global warming is an increase in the average temperature of the earth's atmosphere (especially a sustained increase that causes climatic changes).

It’s time to Go Green 2

In Our Home-Let us Reduce Toxicity

• Let’s eliminate mercury from our home by purchasing items without mercury, and dispose of items containing mercury at an appropriate drop-off facility when necessary(e.g. old thermometers)

• Let’s learn about alternatives to household cleaning items that do not use hazardous chemicals.

• Let’s buy optimum amount of paint for a painting job in home/office.

• When no good alternatives exist to a toxic item, let’s find the least amount required for an effective, sanitary result.

• If we live in an old building, let’s have the paint in our home tested for lead. If we have lead-based paint, let’s cover it with wallpaper or other material instead of sand papering it or burning it off.

• Let’s use traps instead of rat and mouse poisons and insect killers.

• Let’s use cedar chips or aromatic herbs instead of mothballs.

• Let’s use ceramic coffee mug instead of a disposable cup.

In Our Garden

• Let’s leave grass clippings on the yard-they decompose and return nutrients to the soil.

• Let’s minimize pesticide use.

• Let’s create a wildlife habitat in your yard.

• Let’s water grass early in the morning.

• Let’s rent or borrow items like ladders, chain saws, party decorations and others that are seldom used.

• Let’s take actions that use non hazardous components(e.g. to ward off pests, plant marigolds in a garden instead of using pesticide).

• Let’s put leaves in a compost heap instead of burning them or throwing them away.

Courtesy: P.S. Group

Answer to the last QOTB: The UN Climate Change Conference in Copenhagen, December 7th to 18th.

QOTB: Do you know what is Global Warming?