It was a normal day as I accompanied a friend to the CA Institute-she had some work there and since I didn’t have any I went with her. As I entered, it struck me that the people out there must be thinking I’m a CA student too. Without even consciously realizing they must have taken it for granted that if she’s here she must be doing CA. This got me thinking. So often we judge things and people without giving it a second thought.
If someone’s rich and pretty, they must have attitude.
If someone’s with a member of the opposite sex, “Hmm, are they seeing each other?”
If she’s nice to her, she is a nice person overall.
He wears glasses and has oily hair; he must be the studious geeky type.
That senior ragged me, she’s a horrible person.
She failed in this subject, she’s dumb.
I could go on and on with the examples. We all are judgmental people. We can’t just see things as they are without forming an opinion. Does outer beauty mean lack of inner beauty? Why can’t there be a platonic relationship between a boy and a girl? Just because someone’s nice to one person doesn’t make her a good human being. A person can be shy and hence not speak and how does being simple in outlook mean being a geek? Ragging is a part of college life and a little bit helps in forming good relations with the seniors as well-that doesn’t necessarily make the senior a bad person. If a person fails in one subject, that doesn’t mean she’s dumb, maybe she has an aptitude for something else.
But no, we have to form an opinion.
More than ourselves, we think about others. Half of our time goes in wondering about other people and what they think of us. It’s so important to know every bit of gossip about everyone that sometimes we don’t know what our heart is saying. We bother too much about too many people and about too many things.
Don’t. Don’t judge other people, give everything and everyone a fair chance.
Don’t bother about what everyone’s saying or doing, follow your heart.
Spend so much time improving yourself, that there is no time left to criticize others.
You be The Judge. Not of others but of your own life.
