It was a normal day as I accompanied a friend to the CA Institute-she had some work there and since I didn’t have any I went with her. As I entered, it struck me that the people out there must be thinking I’m a CA student too. Without even consciously realizing they must have taken it for granted that if she’s here she must be doing CA. This got me thinking. So often we judge things and people without giving it a second thought.
If someone’s rich and pretty, they must have attitude.
If someone’s with a member of the opposite sex, “Hmm, are they seeing each other?”
If she’s nice to her, she is a nice person overall.
He wears glasses and has oily hair; he must be the studious geeky type.
That senior ragged me, she’s a horrible person.
She failed in this subject, she’s dumb.
I could go on and on with the examples. We all are judgmental people. We can’t just see things as they are without forming an opinion. Does outer beauty mean lack of inner beauty? Why can’t there be a platonic relationship between a boy and a girl? Just because someone’s nice to one person doesn’t make her a good human being. A person can be shy and hence not speak and how does being simple in outlook mean being a geek? Ragging is a part of college life and a little bit helps in forming good relations with the seniors as well-that doesn’t necessarily make the senior a bad person. If a person fails in one subject, that doesn’t mean she’s dumb, maybe she has an aptitude for something else.
But no, we have to form an opinion.
More than ourselves, we think about others. Half of our time goes in wondering about other people and what they think of us. It’s so important to know every bit of gossip about everyone that sometimes we don’t know what our heart is saying. We bother too much about too many people and about too many things.
Don’t. Don’t judge other people, give everything and everyone a fair chance.
Don’t bother about what everyone’s saying or doing, follow your heart.
Spend so much time improving yourself, that there is no time left to criticize others.
You be The Judge. Not of others but of your own life.
6 comments:
Gud insight. Actually its human nature to judge people and make predictions based on your own instinct. For example if somebody is studious, she must not be interested in arts/cooking/scuba diving.
You point still holds true. Let us try and not judge people randomly.
Well said aditi.. we sometimes are too judgmental.. human tendency i say. What we do not understand is how much it hurts others and the pain that it causes
@Yojana Thanks..=)
It's human nature yes but how long can we hide under that?Even I have done it. But I've realised that a person can be different from what we think they are...I'm glad atleast someone agrees..=)
@phantom Thank You.
I think more than others' we end up getting hurt and sometimes even lose out on relations that could have been..
Hey thts very nice piece of blog i have come acrossed recently. We are judgemental in our daily life and that leads to making wrong decisions in our life as well. Bcoz we know tht if someone misjudge us how irritating it feels! Gud work done Aditi!! Lookin forward for more from such interesting blogs from ur side!!
Thanks so much Divyesh! I'm so glad you liked it and thanks for the motivation...=)
Thanks. This is something u discovered and shared..helps me too.
We so always judging but we need to keep a check on that :)
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